Remembering Jonghyun from Shinee


Today’s news was not a good one to wake up to. While I was not a super fan of Shinee, some of their songs were among the first of my kpop playlist.

May Jonghyun rest in peace.


When I Just Want to be Left with My Kpop

I feel a little bad for admitting this. Whenever I go to the gym on weekend mornings, which is considered my biggest workout of the week (I use Saturday as the jump start of my workout week) there is this older lady (80-ish). In some ways, I really like her – she reminds me of what I hope to be like when I am in my senior years, stilling hitting the gym at an ungodly hour to get my workout done, leaving the rest of day to do, well, whatever!

The only thing is when I go to the gym, aside from some small pleasantries and greetings, I really want to be left alone. The purpose of going to the gym is to get a really good workout in, but as I can do that at home as well, I also use it as a place to escape and just be lost in my own thoughts.

I’ve created a few playlist on my iPod Shuffle for the purpose of my workouts. And I love listening to my tunes while I workout! It’s like my sanctuary.

Yet there’s that lady – who’s always there every weekend mornings. I can’t go later (I don’t have time to and she stays there for the entire morning anyway so adjusting my schedule an hour or so later does not help). She’s very sweet but boy does she talk! I have hinted to her so many times that my time there is limited. After all, I go early in the morning while the rest of my household sleeps in. Yet I want to be home for our family brunch.

And I feel bad for her. I do. She lost her husband earlier this year after being with him for over 60 years or something. I can’t imagine that being easy – I mean, it’s amazing she gets herself up every day to move on with life.

But today… today… oh man… she started to tell me her very active sex life she used to have with her husband! Now, I’m not a prude. I mean, I use to be a peer sex ed counselor while in university. I have heard EVERYTHING! I don’t judge – I never have. It’s just that there’s a difference from being in a counselor role when I’m educating people about STDs, birth control methods, sexual lifestyles, etc. It’s another thing when some one who is pretty much close to being a stranger to me, starts to just ramble off about what she used to do with her husband.

The thing is, I wasn’t embarrassed. Like I said, I’ve heard it all. I was simply bored and eager to listen to my music.


Plus, she wears so much perfume it makes my head light and my nose burn.

Christmas Decorating, Sunday Brunch & Weekend Warrior Workouts


Hobbes loves when we decorate for Christmas. It’s just another reason for him to nap surrounded by coziness.

This weekend was busy as we caught up on some shopping, decorated and well, I spent Sunday afternoon with a well deserved 2 hr nap. I’ve been feeling zonked lately. Perhaps with all the BTS excitement that’s been non-stop for the past two weeks! And it’s not over what with the recent record-breaking 28th spot on Billboards 100 for any kpop group, BTS included (beating their previous top 100 for DNA). Plus there is the new Japanese single they are releasing in a couple of days.


Brunch at our favorite spot – Black Dog Pub

Anyway – it was a great weekend though. We ate Sunday brunch at the Black Dog Pub which is our favorite pub usually for dinner. And while it does serve traditional pub fare, it is a more upscale version from most pubs. Their wine list is amazing! Rather than having to settle for one or two choices of red wine in most pubs/bars, they actually have a good vintage selection. Anyone who knows me knows I don’t go for the cheap stuff if I can help it. Yup – I’m a bit of a wine snob. I never meant to be one – it just sort of happened. As I got older, my palate started to change.


Hobbes always makes a great backdrop for my manicure posts!

To start the weekend, I went to get my nails re-done. And I managed to also go early both Saturday and Sunday to the gym for 1.5 hrs cardio sessions each day. Saturday, I also did a 50 minutes push-up and delts + tricep weight session. On Sunday, I rounded the weekend off with 40 minutes of yoga. My poor body was too sore to do much else by then!

And of course, between all that, we ended Saturday night decorating the house – all but the tree since we always get a live tree which needs to be bought a week or so before Christmas day (to stay fresh for the holidays).

Christmas time always comes by so quickly. I hope this year it takes its time a bit as I won’t complain if it even drags itself out. I have a lot of wrapping to do this year and I admit I went ahead and spoiled my daughter with a crap-load of kpop merchandise. I hope I did not over do it but as her obsession over BTS has not slowed down I’m sure she won’t be disappointed. Hell, even I bought the BTS Live Trilogy EPISODE III THE WINGS TOUR DVD for myself! I’m wrapping it up and putting it under the Christmas tree with the message, “Dear Mommy – Hope you like this! Love, Hobbes!” Don’t worry, I’ll share it with my daughter. She can also have any posters/photo cards it comes with. What am I going to do with BTS posters, anyway?

A Playlist for Solitude

As Christmas is just around the corner (and for the first time in years, I still have so much shopping to do), I’m feeling more and more a need of solitude. It always happensĀ  while my birthday happens to fall between Christmas and the start of the new year.

The cold air is refreshing. Yet the shorter days allowing darkness to envelope the city earlier and earlier, combined with the fast-pace activities all around, causes me to want to retreat into myself.

I told my husband yesterday, on my birthday, I am hoping to go visit our art gallery downtown. He asked, “By yourself?”

I responded, “Yes. Completely by myself.”

“Why?” My husband was surprised and perhaps even a bit disappointed I didn’t want to share the whole day with him and my daughter.

I, on the other hand, wondered why he hasn’t learned this about me after knowing me for 15 years.

It’s nothing personal. To anyone. I’m not necessarily an introvert. Nor am I an extrovert. I believe the new term is omnivert – one who is able to be in most social settings without feeling uncomfortable. Yet there are moments of needing to recharge themselves with introvert-like behaviors before facing the world again.

Christmas time is always so busy. When my birthday finally arrives each year, it’s the perfect time to retreat into my own little world. It’s how I pamper myself – by being alone. Maybe not for the whole day – I plan to have a celebratory dinner with my family but I really want to spend the day doing what I want to do without having to worry about others. I love my family but I have this side of me that does not enjoy being tied down. I like to sometimes have the freedom to move about without having some one follow me. Or for me to wait for. I want to go as I please. It’s not that I want to leave my family but I know in order for me to be happy, I have to, from time to time, appease this free spirit of mine. A spirit that can not feel trapped for too long.

And so, for my birthday, I plan to create a special playlist. Then I am going to go downtown on the subway and visit the art gallery. There, I will walk around by myself for the latter half of the afternoon listening to my playlist in peace. I might contemplate about my year but I probably won’t bother. I rather just be lost in the music and the art I see before me as I allow myself to feel whatever emotions the combined two conjure up.

My husband and daughter can then meet me somewhere for a really great dinner! Afterwards, weather permitting, we can head to the distillery as they normally adorn the cobblestone, pedestrian street with holiday lights. A walk there with a freshly brewed Americano (hot chocolate for my daughter) while walking off our dinner before we head home together would be how we end the night.

I would rather have all the above then any physical birthday gift!

Shy’s Spotify Playlist – Solitude

Silence – Delerium Ft. Sarah Mchlachlan
Enjoy the Silince – Depeche Mode
Artificial Nocturne – Metric
Zombie – The Cranberries
Playboy – EXO
Aritifical Love – EXO
Precious – Depeche Mode
Let U Go – ATB
Possession – Sarah Mchlachlan
Don’t Recall – BTS
Breathing Underwater – Metric
Tomorrow – BTS
Intro: Boy Meets Evil – BTS
Begin – BTS
Lie – BTS
Stigma – BTS
First Love – BTS
Reflection – BTS
Awake – BTS
Lost – BTS
Cypher 4 – BTS
Butterfly (Prologue Mix) – BTS
Dreams – The Cranberries
9AM (Till I Come) – ATB
Interlude: Wings – BTS
Blood Sweat & Tears – BTS
House of Cards – BTS
Pied Pier – BTS
Decode – Paramore
MIC Drop Remix – BTS, Steve Aoki
Spring Day – BTS
Intro: Serendipity – BTS
Viva Forever – Tony Rich Remix, Spice Girls
Thousand Years – Sawyer Frederick


And the Rest of #Canada150 Weekend…

I always come back to work feeling content after a good weekend well spent. I do. I feel like I deserve a pat on the back or something. Because that’s the kind of ego I have!

Granted, some weekends are very “nothing” weekends. Ones where we are just lazy. And that’s okay – I think we need those types of weekends every now and then. Then there are weekends where we are booked with social events. These are the weekends I try to avoid – It’s one thing to spend an evening with friends or family but it’s another weekend where every single minute of our day is spent socializing.

And, no surprise, these types of weekends happen not by choice. We’re about to approach just that type of weekend when we visit my husband’s family in Thunder Bay. My MIL has this weird obsession of making sure the entire city has a chance to visit with us when we arrive – something no one in the immediate family cares for. But she INSISTS. Which is why I always stop at the liquor store and stock up for such weekends.

I’m almost positive there are rumors going around that my poor husband is married to an alcoholic. Fine by me… just give me my red wine!

So due to this impending weekend of doom approaching fast, we’re making sure this weekend is going to be one of those nothing-weekends. Today, yeah, I did play around with the idea of a hike but I have too much to do with laundry and stuff at home as it is. So I’m going to just throw in the towel and stay home. I will, however, enjoy our patio just to say I ‘got out of the house’ – how about that? Does that count?

And I’ll have a martini whilst I’m enjoying our patio.

Last weekend which was the #Canada150 long weekend, we had one of those very fulfilling weekend where we saw no one but did a lot as a family. Chaeli and I did participate in the July 1st festivities, but we also made sure to spend the rest of the weekend doing things we love to do (and take advantage of good weather)!


Crawford Lake Hike – 1 hr 45 min


Our first raspberries of the season


Late afternoon stroll by the lake


Hobbes the Dog was a happy pup!