i’ve always thought of myself as one of those parents that would raise her daughter to grow up with tolerance. and to fight discrimination.
(which should be interesting – because given the reactions of my SIL and BIL upon seeing two men hold hands at a park when they came a couple of years ago, i’m not at all sure how they are going to bring up my niece and nephew. because as their aunt, i would be really tempted to teach them the right way of tolerance.)
so the other day, we were watching will smith’s hitch flick when smith’s character, hitch, asks his client to show him how he will be doing the whole ‘end of the date first kiss’ move. the client took it somewhat too literally and planted one on hitch’s mouth.
it was at that exact point where chaeli gives a big, “EWWW! TWO BOYS KISSING??? THAT’S GROSS!!!”
i was surprised and shocked. but why should i be? we haven’t discussed same-sex relationships. at all. and it’s not that i have been avoiding it. i just didn’t think i would bring it up until the questions started to come out.
and while i totally get that the ew-reaction is quite normal for kids her age, i suppose it was wishful thinking on my part that one day she would just come home, put her backpack on the table and say, “mom… we need to talk. some one told me today that canada allows same-sex marriages. what’s that all about? i thought men could only marry women. and women could only marry men. i’m confused and i need you to set the record straight.”
okay – so i know it wouldn’t have played out exactly like that. but the reaction she gave made me feel like i had failed to stop THAT way of thinking before it started taking over the way she thought on the matter. i know, i know… not the end of the world here. but i can’t help but to wonder that if i had started this talk earlier, it would have made things easier.
so now i’m looking into some literature out there – good books for kids – to read to her.
not easy. there’s a slew of books out there about sex education but i haven’t found ones specifically dedicated to same-sex relationships. other then one book that discusses sex education and grazes over the topic of sexual orientation.
but there’s got to be something – even a children’s fictional book called something to the likes of ‘i love my two mommies/daddies.’
anyway, i can’t wait to find something good. and then tell my in-laws about it. *big grin*