some people just HAVE to be heard or seen. i mean, even when they are just standing there, it's like their need to be noticed is just oozing out of their pores.
there's such a person i know that is like that – he'll stand there while i'm reading on my break and i can sense his neediness almost vibrating out of him.
i use to talk to him – big mistake. this was the same guy that gave me 'advice' on my photography (advice i never asked for and to be quite frank, didn't agree with). and the only reason why i bothered talking to him in the first place was because he was the only one that i could talk to about books, politics and more indepth subject matter.
as i said – big mistake. because i soon learned that he didn't want to talk. he just wanted to be heard. and while there are a slew of people out there, i'll admit, that are better at listening as a form of participation, that's just so not me.
i'll listen. in fact, i work at being a good listener. i'm not perfect. i'm not even great. but i try to be sensitive when listening, knowing that when the roles are reversed, i would like the person's pretty good and undivided attention (within reason of course) so i try to give this type of attention back.
but… if i never get to talk. or when i do talk, i'm either ignored or completely cut-off and interrupted by the receiving end, then i get frustrated and bored.
anyway… so there are times when i'm reading, that he hovers close by. and when i don't respond more then a 'hello', he walks to a nearby table and sips his mug of hot water/tea.
i had no idea that such an act of solitude and what should be a quiet activity can be so damn loud!
first of all, he picks his mug up every 5 to 10 seconds. and when he puts it down, it's with a loud *clang*. he then takes a sip. and it's not just a normal sip. it's like a *SSSSSSSIIIIIIIP!!!!* and then he loudly puts his mug down on the table again. he repeats this process for the entire break – up to 15 minutes.
it annoys the hell out of me. i mean, if you're going to take a sip within 5 seconds of each other, do you HAVE to put it down so often just to pick it back up again?
it's strange to say this, but he's a lazy man. and i think sometimes, a known characteristic of a person can be shown in the smallest actions that they perform. i know… to most, picking up and putting down a mug so often is actually more work. but you have to know him. it's like… he needs to rest after the smallest effort of physical or mental activity.
and there lies why such a small act of his annoys me. it simply like a symbolic representation of the greater traits of his that i do not like.
i've also learned to put my book down on the table while reading. because if he can see the cover or spine, he will read it and then want to talk to me about it. not because he's interested at all in what i'm reading, but because then he can talk about what he's reading.
at least he's finally stopped asking me, "have you taken any pictures lately?"
i've had to lie to him, "nope. no time and no interest these days."